Both were applying for jobs they really wanted. Both are in their 40s. Both have been out of the workforce for some time.
Interview 1 with friend L went like this:
interviewer - so, L, can you tell me what your skills are?
L - L's brain picks this moment to take a break.
(looks out the window)
(looks at interviewer)
Ummmm..... I'm sorry. I'm not sure what you mean....
interviewer - Well, can you tell me what you would bring to this job?
L just looks at her. Her brain is still absent. After a few more (very long) seconds of silence, she begins talking about how she thinks she can do the job, and manages to muddle her way through.
She cries in her car all the way home.
Interview 2 with J goes like this:
interviewer: So, J, can you tell me about your skills?
J : (brain freezes)......
interviewer: Well, what would you bring to the job? What are your skills?
J : very flustered, bursts out in an accusing tone, Well, I don't have any! (not true, she does)
Interviews aren't really fun for anyone, are they? But when you've been a full-time mum for years, recently divorced, worrying over a mortgage and how the kids are coping, and desperately need the job, the tension and stress plays havoc with your self-esteem.
Both these women could do the job. But they have trouble selling themselves.
I just hope both interviewers look past those disastrous replies, and see the real skills.