Tuesday, November 30, 2010

when a boy meets a girl

Well, it's finally happened.

Mr 9 likes a girl at school.

And being the innocent sweetheart that he is, he hasn't realised that you might not need to broadcast these things.

Not long ago, he carefully lined a box with tissues, and placed a ring in the box (an Avon one, relax, it wasn't an heirloom) and planned to take it to school to give to the girl. I persuaded him that wasn't a very good idea, because the other kids might tease him. Or her.

Now I've found notes in his room, written to her, declaring his undying like for her.
"I really like you. I know you don't like me, but I liked you the first time I saw you."

Isn't that sweet?

But I knew we needed to talk about this.

Me: I know you like a girl at school. It's OK to like someone. But I think Dad needs to have a little chat with you about what to do if you like someone.

Him: OK.

Me: I think it should be Dad because I'm not a boy.

Him: OK.

Me: In the meantime, I think it should be a secret liking.

Him: How come?

Me: Just so no-one teases you, or her.

Him: OK. I wrote her a note. What should I do with it?

Me: What do you think?

Him: I'll chuck it in the bin.

So now, it's up to Dad. (sorry, babe)

Parenting is a tough gig, sometimes. You never really know if you're doing things right.
So tell me -- what would YOU do?


  1. Why do kids have to tease?
    Ash likes a boy at school ALOT and is afraid to ask him out cos she doesn't want to be teased if he says no. 'The boy'earlier in the year said to her "would you want to go out with me?" because she was so stunned hesitated and he finished off with "off you you wouldn't" and walked off. :(
    Sounds like your DS has it bad for this young girl! How cute is the ring in the box - heartbreaker in the making!!

  2. sooooo glad i am not '9' again..... too complicated !!!!!!

  3. I've got no help for you here. If my boys liked a girl at that age I didn't even know about it.

  4. He threw the token of his love in the bin? How sad.

    Have a nice day, Boonie

  5. Oh I thought I was the only Mum going through this. My daughter (8) at the start of this year in grade 3 fell in love and declared it to all and sundry... she and the boy were going along and then she came home and said he "dumped her" OMG at 8!!! She now secretly likes him and it has taken the whole year for them to be "friends" again (he just gave her a Christmas card with 4 stickers!).

    Advice for your little guy... all was cool till the other boys started teasing her "boyfriend" about her. Love can be cruel xx

  6. Yuh -- that's what I am afraid of for him. He's gonna be like his dad, I think -- wear his heart on his sleeve...


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